I get the point of watching what other people are doing and being on the same page... but... i can't be watching the whole time. it's distracting and looks amateurish imo.
After playing the same songs for 2 years if you don't have the feel yet without having to look at each other maybe something else is wrong.
People should play to the drummers feel and tempo regardless if it's off a couple bpm's... who's going to care?