How would you handle this?
So I posted a couple of months ago that I auditioned for a band and was given the gig. I have thought that it has been going well, but the lead singer (who writes all of the songs that we do) keeps saying that he is worried members are going to run off and leave him hanging. Over the past few practices he has cornered me and another member up asking if we are sure we want to do this, or if we can do this.
Additionally he saw a youtube video of me playing at a local jam with some friends, and asks me why am I with him when I should be with the other group of guys I jam with. (They have a drummer. I'm not him.) On top of this, he is having a lot of slip ups on songs he's been singing for years. The music is coming together, but at times the vocals struggle. I have tried to let it roll like water off of a duck, but I'm beginning to get tired of being asked why am I there, if I'm going to stay around, or if I'm sure I want to do this.
I spoke with the bass player who helped to get me into the band. He's been a part of the band for several years, and he knew I was frustrated after yesterday's practice. I told him I'm tired of being asked if I'm going to stick around and if I want to do this. I've put in hours of practice learning the songs, and I don't want to be a butthole, but I'm sick of being questioned. I'm beginning to wonder if the lead singer really wants me there or not. It's almost as if he is hinting that he wants me gone. The bass player said he isn't sure what the deal is, but that even he doesn't think the singer is putting forth full effort, almost as if he is the one who really doesn't want to do it, but he just wont come out and say it.
I'm wanting to talk to the guy, but I need to get my thoughts in order first. One wrong word could send me packing down the road because of the frustration I have with the situation. With that being said, I believe this band has chemistry, and could be something special, but some of this stuff is beginning to get to me.
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