Welcome to Drum Chat Crateis! Nice to have another Tennessean in here.
The first question I would have for you is what do you know about tuning your kit? It sounds like you might be having trouble with overtones. Good tuning can help you, and then there are several dampening things that you can use to help with those overtones. Also, what heads are on your kit, because the right heads can also be important in giving you the sound that you want.
Again, welcome!
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