Okay just a question on Accents.

I heard a song today, and i was listening to it and it had ghost notes on the bass pedal. So what i was doing to achieve this was to just use heal down on the ghost parts and then heal up on the normal parts. But then I tried using heal up on both the ghosts and normal parts (just be softer on the ghost notes) and I found myself trying to hit the hi-hat lighter as i was hitting by bass drum lighter, is this something that you just need to coordinate? did you guys experience this? and are these actually ghost notes or is it Dynamics?

don't ask why i thought it was called dynamics, it just sorta rang a bell in my head, those really small bells. lol.