Hi Drumnut30... welcome to DC!
I don't know if you have considered this, but would an electronic kit be an option? With an e-kit you have all sort of configuration options, different drum and percussion sounds, as well as a volume knob! I use an e-kit for small, low volume gigs and always get complements on the sound.
If you are set on an acoustic kit, there are many members on this site that would be able to offer you more advice than I could.
Again, welcome!
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